Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010 at
3:16 pm
If you want to get your ex back, you should know how to control your emotions. There are some basic emotions:
· Pleasure.
· Surprise.
· Grief.
· Rage (includes the whole scale of feelings and psychological conditions, such as irritability, insult, disappointment, fury).
· Disgust.
· Contempt.
· Dread.
· Fault (dread to appear terrible, multiplied by thought to be due to someone).
· Shame.
· Interest.
Properties of emotions:
· It is possibility of carrying over of emotions. Emotions veteran to one object, are transferred in particular degree on all class of similar objects.
· Under influence of many things, which irritate you, feelings and emotions stop to be bright (any song bothers if you hear it constantly, often repeated joke any more does not cause laughter). You are get used to both positive, and negative emotions. Getting used to negative emotions dangerously as negative emotions signal about adverse conditions, inducing the person to changes.
· Interaction. The various emotions are arising at influence of various disturbing influence hostile to each other. For example, the feeling of disappointment from an unethical act of one person amplifies, if it is opposed to a noble act of other person in the same situation. There is a contrast of emotions.
· Summation. That or other object, collect, regularly causes the emotions. So, as a result of summation, the like, respect for the person or, on the contrary, hatred, which can lead to affect, can become stronger.
· Replacement. Failure in one sphere can be compensated by success in another.
· Emotions that have been not pleased concerning one object can be transferred on other objects.
Six steps of management of emotions:
1. To Realize emotions. It is impossible to operate what you do not notice. The very first and, doubtless, most vital step is to learn to realize the condition, the emotion.
2. To Choose. One emotions approach for one situation, others for others are better. Rather doubtless that emotion, which we test are not absolutely that emotion which approaches for the agreed concrete situation. For thriving buy the satisfaction, than disappointment are better approaches. And if you unfairly accuse, indignation or rage, than delight or like will be more suitable.
3. To Operate intensity of emotion. Intensity of emotion can be:
· Weak — emotion appears seldom and casually, easily chokes with other feelings.
· Average — emotion copes consciousness, can influence other feelings.
· Strong — Only just gives in to management of consciousness.
4. To Transform emotion. It is clear that one business to choose before emotion has gone. But after all it is necessary to do something and with that emotion which did not wait – and it has come. It is useful for transforming to something more suitable. You were attacked by insult, and you consider its not absolutely approaching for a situation of an explanation with the loving person. It would be desirable to receive instead of it something more suitable: pleasure, like, interest. Then it is necessary to do work on emotion transformation.
5. To Show or express emotion. Emotions bear energy in themselves. This energy demands show at corporal level: in movements, a accent, a pose etc. If it is not to do, and to ignore emotion and to suppress – not expressed energy wanders in you and constantly it tries to be shown in the form of any difficulty, spasms and pains.
6. You should react.
When you learn how to control your emotions, you will be able to get your ex back without difficulties! Excellent luck!
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