Friday, February 5th, 2010 at
11:00 pm
That fact that you dream to get back or despise the ex-husband, speaks about you more than about him. Still any half a century ago such concept as the ex-boyfriend simply did not exist. Girls had admirers of the period before marriage life and the husband. Now the life became much more fascinating – and it is more hard.
From like to hatred is one step only. And when he has offended you, has betrayed, has offended, you have made at once this step – have departed aside, from him far away, have run up hill and down dale and now and do not wish to hear about his biography. But everything is more hard; ex is impossible to send into ?migr? on the Moon, and the joint past – to erase the pin delete. Very many reminds you about him. Places in which you walked, cafe in which sat. Even things much more prosaic – for example, his favorite ice cream or juice – force your sensitivity, let and absolutely imperceptibly for associates to miss a bit and be compressed. After all he still causes in you strong feeling. It is unimportant, as it is called, – like or hatred. It is unimportant that you wish to make with this person, – to kill or like. You are not indifferent to him.
To endure divorce or parting with the loved one, time is required. The emotions not lived and not veteran by us, not recognized pain and insult heavy cargo remain in us. To go with them on a life it is unpleasant. Moreover, not expressed aggression in family member to your ex can be shown in the most improper situations – in conversations with the most different extraneous people.
So it is useful to try to give vent to this aggression. For example, you should sit down and write some mad calligraphy (to send them to him is not necessarily) or to read in emptiness of a room a verdict of guilty. You could weep half-nights, considering photos. To reckon of everything that was in relations excellent and terrible, and to weep following half of night. You could send fifty spiteful messages. In general you should do unpleasant, but necessary work. But then you, most likely, will feel… Simplification. Become quieter and more indifferent.
And only after that you could reckon again if you want to get him back or not. Nearly all friends are assured that you have perfectly coped with a problem: yes, it was hard, yes, you have quarreled, yes, have dispersed, but now you have other life. Though at night to you dreams that you again together, and among the working day you catch yourselves on thought on that, fortuitously to meet your ex. Nevertheless you never will dial his number. To initiate a meeting, as it seems to you, is incorrect. Though, if really it would be desirable to call, forgive, embrace, start over again to meet or live together, it is necessary to take the first step. But only it is necessary to be assured that after a word “greetings” you do not fall to a speech for the prosecution.
Wish you excellent luck!
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