Did you know psychologists concur that having a relationship break up is like going through grief? Contrasting mournful and getting over a break up, you can doubtless see why. In both cases you lose someone you loved and you’re unwilling to psychologically let them go. By using similar principles to mournful for someone, you can get over a relationship break down.


I want you to know terrible relationships happen and how to detect them and for you to learn useful advice for managing your break up such as having a help group and maintenance your internal thoughts on the right track. You can see these tips are useful for those who are mourning.


You firstly need to be attentive that break ups are a part of relationships and life. Acknowledge relationships end all the time. You doubtless wouldn’t have been able to experience the wonderful feelings you had with the partner you are breaking up with if you hadn’t broken up with someone before. The same can be said for your future partner. You won’t be able to experience the wonderful times and emotions with them if you don’t get over your broken relationship.


Types of Break Ups


Not every break up is the same. Some make intense emotions of sadness, depression, and rage while others can be a complete relief. I categorize relationship break ups into three groups:


1. You chose to break up – this type of break up is the simplest and will give you fewest troubles. Often the pronouncement will make you more pleased then being in the relationship.


2. The other person chose to break up – the toughest type of break up to deal with is the other person deciding to break up with you and is the main focus in this condition.


3. Mutual break up – the two of you have talked the process through and concluded splitting up is the best option. The rarest type of break up where each individual often cares how the other person they are leaving feels about the pronouncement. Reasoning, openness, and future plans are common.


Coming to terms with breaking up and knowing which type it is will initiate you being able to get over your relationship break up. Though, it isn’t that clear-cut. You can often undergo a painfully recurrent uncertainty when splitting up where you wonder if the two of you are in fact apart.


The Golden Rule of Moving On


Having truly realized that break ups happen and more importantly that they will happen to you, it’s time to tell yourself the golden rule of getting over a break up.


Repeatedly affirm yourself and internalize the belief that you want to get over the person you are breaking up with.

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How often have you seen someone want to get over a break up yet they are resistant to in fact breaking up with the person?


It happens too often.


What is even worse then being resistant to getting over the person yet wanting to not get over them is not being attentive of the mental tug-o-war game within you. The internal conflict within yourself will leave you frustrated and not in control of your thoughts and emotions. You’ll be uncertain of getting back together with your ancient partner while being unwilling to go on and delight in your life by yourself or with another partner.


You have to be particular of yourself and know what you want. Don’t ruin the golden rule. Question yourself questions and be fully attentive of what is making you resistant to emotionally releasing yourself from the person such as “What makes me still attracted to the person?”, “Why can’t I get over him/her?”, and “What do I like about the person?” to develop an understanding of yourself. Question yourself other questions that you reckon will help clarify your emotions and thoughts.


Clarity will form a direction you will head towards in your life. It will tell you where not to go. It will show you want you want. You will no longer have following thoughts and be uncertain of what you want. By clearly defining a destination you are able to map out a path as to how you will arrive there.


If you have a choice of flying to one of Paris or Sydney, and you constantly hesitate since you want to visit both cities and you don’t want to miss the other, you’ll never make a pronouncement and will miss out on visiting either city.


There’s a russian axiom that says “if you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one.” By not being 100% clear with what you want (this goes for every other goal in life), you will achieve neither and remain frustrated. You become uncertain of yourself since you never critically reckon and investigate your feelings and thoughts to know your right desire.


Conduct an ‘investigation’ making it your goal to find out as much about yourself as possible. Gather as much information about yourself from self-talk and other people to solve ‘the crime’. Using this golden rule is the fundamental practice in getting over a relationship break down.

Joshua Uebergang has provided you with a free handbook to getting over a relationship break up here. You can also develop more effective communication and relationship skills by visiting his blog.

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