An apology is like a scalpel, if used accurately it saves lives, loved ones and can cut away years of hurt, but used incorrectly and it swiftly severs the sensitivity from the body PERMANENTLY

Millions, if not billions of dollars have been paid in lawsuits that could have been saved with an effective apology. When an apology is done accurately it can truly perform what seems to be a miracle.

It is not uncommon of course, for women and men take partners back after affairs, but it is also more common than one would reckon where families have forgiven murderers, rapists and many more offenses much more dreadful than most couples do to each other.

An apology is a very powerful weapon providing it is done the right way, in many cases it has been the turning point in remedial a relationship. It really is an admission of a incorrect doing and must be seen to mean just that.

We must never use an apology as a defence or an excuse. How many times have you heard and doubtless said yourself “I am sorry BUT…” and then follows a list of reasons and excuses, only some of which may be near the truth. Hey! That may well be ok for small insignificant things like being a few minutes late for a meal or a small appointment, but we are discussing huge things here, like maybe saving a strong relationship or even our marriage.

When making an apology it is very vital not to place emphasis on who’s right and who’s incorrect. Remember it is an admission of incorrect doing. Accept dependability for the rift. Are you trying to save face? Or save your relationship?

Here are some tips on a excellent apology….
Acknowledge how the other person feels, take some time putting yourself in their shoes, be very careful NOT to say “I know how you feel” since the truth is you do not know how they feel right now and it can easily backfire and it really is a cop out.

Him…”You must be so frustrated with me, mad and hurt.”

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Her…”Yes I am frustrated and getting a small mad.” Or maybe “I am beyond being mad I am hurt”
Either way you both come out ahead BECAUSE you have a better understanding of their feelings and they feel heard and acknowledged.

Him…”I know, I am letting my tribulations get in the way of our relationship, I have promised to be home early but I keep letting you down.

Her…Well, I realise that it is not all that simple at work…

Him…Thanks, but it is really not an excuse…I want you to know that I feel so terrible for letting you down. Maybe, we need to talk about this some more?
So they sit down and talk instead of having an argument.

This has been an example of an apology on what might seem to be a honestly small matter, but broken relationships all start with small things and if nothing is done about it they soon become very huge things. Taking dependability for a rift in the relationship can go a very long way in resolving that rift.

I recently read a book about saving relationships and about getting your partner back after a sometimes bitter parting. There are very few relationships that CANNOT be saved with the right advice and plotting that this particular book imparts.
Apologies are covered in full, even how to apologise after having an affair or strangely, apologising if your wife/girlfriend had an affair.

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